The other day as I was putting away some clothes, I asked my 4 year old son what he knew about God, he responded “not so much” and I asked do you want to know more about him and he responded the same. I really wasn’t surprised, why would he want to know more about God. Learning about God is not nearly as entertaining as playing toys or video games and he definitely hasn’t been struck with hardship to need to lean on him. Then yesterday morning, I lended a ear to the dental hygienist cleaning my teeth and she used the phrase “they really are good kids” several times and it always followed a questionable decision or action the kid made.
After these interactions, the word apathy got stuck in my head along with “good kids”. The word apathy means: absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement and lack of interest in or concern for things that others find moving or exciting. The definition of “good kids” is up for interpretation but I’m talking about those who behave moderately well that do well enough in school and make fairly wise decisions staying away from any severe mischievous behaviors.
God had me contemplating the two together and he made the connection for me. Could our endeavors to raise “good kids” actually be raising apathetic adults? Most of us have been raised in middle class homes, not really ever living in want with open doors to many opportunities. We are taught in school, at home and by culture we can be whatever we want to be, we can do whatever we want to do, we can live however we want to live, believe whatever we want to believe with little to no consequences. The attitude of self is celebrated and revered with you have to go get what you want, strive to be the best you and make sure to carve out that me time. Parents raise “good kids” to do well in school and to behave well but allowing some “normal” questionable behavior because after all kids will be kids and teenagers will be teenagers and they will do what they will do.
So what is the harm in raising “good kids,” is that not an admirable thing to do? Satan is crafty in his ways of deceiving and he has stealthily entered the majority of families with the ideals of raising “good kids.” He has convinced parents that going to church on Sunday and raising the kids to be good is good enough. He has convinced generations the only way to be successful in life is getting the best education possible, to be well rounded in all sorts of sports and hobbies and to never give up on their ideas and dreams for themselves. As our minds have been set to try to attain these goals, it has been turned away from God. We have given up Godly wisdom from His Word for earthly wisdom. We have given up discipline and self control for instant gratification and indulgence. We have dismissed God’s plans and purposes for our future to attain what we want for ourselves. It has left generations apathetic toward God and fostering new ones.
What does God say about these “good” people?
“I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth. You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.”
Revelation 3:15-17 NIV
““You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.”
Matthew 5:13 NIV
As believers, we are to live salty lives for Christ. We are not to look, sound, and be like the world. We are to live transformed being new creatures and living in a foreign land. We are to raise salty kids. Asking what does God have planned for you what is your purpose in him. Teaching them his ways and his words over everything else. We are to put everything in our life through the spiritual grid to sift out anything that causes us to stray whether activities or mindsets. We are to be confident in Christ stepping into deep waters he has called us into, awakening us with a thrilling passion to pursue him more not living in shallow warm water that lacks passion. We are to exchange our apathy for zeal and zest for the Lord and lead and teach our children by example and challenge the worlds way and live fully alive in Christ. No longer strive to raise “good kids” but strive to raise kids with the foundation of reverence in God, cultivating minds and hearts that have been permeated with God’s truth and his ways. Let’s show our children how to love God with all of our heart and all of our soul and love others as ourselves.