Motherhood is like the chrysalis of a caterpillar to a butterfly. When we are young women, we desire to be full of grace and beauty like the butterfly. But before we can get to that point we must go through the chrysalis of transformation. It’s during that time of who am I anymore? Am I still the caterpillar I use to be? No, but I’m not the graceful butterfly I hope be either. Instead, I look at myself and I’m in the hard place. Unsure of who I am anymore…the days seem long and tiresome. But through that long period of transformation I slowly turn from the young caterpillar with so much potential and future ahead of me to the butterfly I had hope to be.
Motherhood is also like a fruit bearing tree. All women start off as seeds with great potential to bear fruit (children and character) but the tree must grow before it bears its fruit. We desire to bear wonderful ripe fruit but the ripening takes time. The tree cannot will itself to ripen a fruit faster. It’s maturity must be made complete. The tree must also go through seasons of pruning so that it can produce an abundance of healthy good fruit. So it is with motherhood. We cannot expect to be the mother and woman we want to be overnight. No, it takes time. It takes a ripening of fruit. It takes seasons of pruning. A time in which God removes things in our life physical or a mindset that prevents us from producing the wonderful fruit.
Developing into a Proverbs 31 woman is a life long pursuit. It doesn’t happen overnight. It is a transformation God does through us and especially through motherhood. The hardness of motherhood transforms who we are as women. I think for myself and maybe for others it is difficult to figure out who we are in this season. We know we are no longer the woman we use to be and to hold too tightly to the “use to be” is dangerous and we aren’t quite where we want to be either. So we might “lose” ourself and possibly forget who we are. But who we are, is in Christ. We are in a transformation period and it cannot be hurried or bypassed. When we learn to rest in the fact that God is in the process of transforming you day by day and that you can learn to have satisfaction where you are in that process joy can be found. God is creating a new woman defined by himself and made into a new creation. The work will be made complete.