Daily Reminders

Practical Advice on Parenting

  • 1.)When life is too busy or you are overwhelmed:
  • Stop-Slow down- Abide

    Stop– whatever you are doing and the route you are taking

    Slowdown– all mental processes (what you have to get done, how this going to effect this or that etc.)

    Abide– Trust God is working, stay connected to him through his word and let go of control.

    ““I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”

    ‭‭John‬ ‭15:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    2.) Remember what he has called you to do and what he has NOT called you to do

    For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

    ‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29:11-13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    3.) Remember that small faithful steps in obedience leads to great faith.

    “You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.”

    ‭‭James‬ ‭2:22‬ ‭NIV

    4.) Go on walks with your children

    Walking beside another person slows down life so doors may be open for conversations that are missed in the everyday busyness of life. Take the time to stop and look at the world God created. Admire its diversity and beauty. Allow your children to question and wonder. Tie in God’s majesty to the world they are experiencing as they walk. Walks are a representation of our walk with Christ. We may travel the same route each day but each walk brings new experiences and new lessons. Some days it is a daunting task to walk and others, a joy.

    Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

    ‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭11:18-19‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    Lessons

    Finding Purpose In The Fire

    Jeremiah 18:1-12

    Sometimes, God leads us into seasons of life with situations and circumstances that drive us to confront emotions we might try to bury otherwise. I find myself in one of these seasons. In this season, anger and frustration drives me to my knees in front of the Lord almighty. At times, I try to squelch my emotions buy burying them and holding my tongue but this is not what the Lord desires. It is not self control but avoidance of confrontation. If I bury what the Lord uses to draw me near to Him I only bring destruction on myself from within. Knowing I am powerless in my situation, I seek after the one who has all the power. He causes me to confront Him with my big emotions. He draws out of me what is really going on in my heart and brings it to the surface. I hate it but I am grateful for it. It is painful but yet it is comforting. At times though, I fight against the pressure of His mighty hand and I cry out why must you keep me here but He reminds me it is for my good. For if there was no kneading of the clay, a pot could not be formed and I would remain a useless lump.

    I do not enjoy the pains of the kiln burning away my impurities. I do not delight in the pain of the surrounding pressure of life in order to drive me to the Lord but I am thankful. I can find joy in my sufferings because it is not a waste in the hands of the almighty. He forms life out of death, creation from nothingness. He uses these emotions to cultivate a heart and mind aligned with his by drawing out what hinders me. It is a comfort to know, that my God is bigger than my situations and my emotions. It is humbling to be reminded that He is more concerned with my holiness than my happiness.

    Supporting Scripture

    “Yet you, Lord, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.”

    ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭64:8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

    ‭‭James‬ ‭1:2-4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    Lessons

    A Dream Interpreted

    Genesis 3:1-6

    This morning I was woke up by a strange dream. I immediately went into prayer to understand it’s meaning.

    In the dream, there was a husband and a wife. The wife had lost her husband in a crowd for a time and went to look for him. Once she found him, the husband began to confess that he had cheated on her. As they walked along a path to leave the place she found him, she realized that the situation was graver than merely being unfaithful. The husband had raped and murdered a woman.

    The wife began to become panicky and saw someone burning the clothes of the murdered woman and she thought “yes, I can fix this for him.” As she watched the clothes burn, she knew she could not save him from this terrible sin. She walked over to her husband, who was beginning to hyperventilate because his eyes were opening to the truth of his sin and how devastating it was, and knelt down. She told him I forgive you because although you have hurt me you have hurt yourself far greater.

    After praying about this crazy dream and reading my devotional , God gave me clarity. He used the account of Adam and Eve and the deception of Satan. Satan deceives Eve into sinning. He tempted her by using logic to sin against God. He downplayed the consequences of her actions and made the sin all that more appealing. Eve gave in and then gave the fruit to Adam. They sinned against God and it hurt God deeply but the true hurt was laid upon them. Their actions separated them from their loving creator, they lost their home and had to live in a harsh land. They were destined to die. Before they sinned, they did not understand its magnitude and what effect it would have.

    As sinners, we are blind to our sin against God. It is when the Holy Spirit convicts us, that He begins to show us just how devastating our actions truly are. When we have been sinned against, it is painful and it hurts but the one who sinned against us is in worse shape. Their heart is not in the right place and they are deceived in believing what they did is justified.

    At times, we may want to save those who we love from the consequences of their sin but we cannot. We are unable to make a heart right or make the blind see. We do however have the ability to forgive in Christ because Christ has forgiven us.

    We are the murders. Our sin placed Christ on the cross and rather Him condemning us He saved us and forgave us. At a time, we too were blind to our own sin and it wasn’t until the Spirit opened our eyes to our ways that we began to see the truth.

    Whether you are the one sinning, or the one being sinned against we must all go to Christ for forgiveness. Allow Him to wipe your slate clean through his redemptive blood or give you the strength to forgive so bitterness does not take root.

    Supporting Scripture

  • “When he comes, he will prove the world to be in the wrong about sin and righteousness and judgment:” John 16:8
  • “Then will the eyes of the blind be opened and the ears of the deaf unstopped.” Isaiah‬ ‭35:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬
  • “And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” 2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:3-4‬
  • “The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so. Those who are in the realm of the flesh cannot please God.” Romans‬ ‭8:7-8‬ ‭
  • ““He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”” 1 Peter‬ ‭2:24‬ ‭
  • “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians‬ ‭4:32‬ ‭
  • “And at three in the afternoon Jesus cried out in a loud voice, “Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani?” (which means “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” ).”
  • Mark‬ ‭15:34‬
  • Lessons

    Brining Our Marriages and Families to the Threshing Floor

    Book of Ruth

    This morning while I was reading my devotional, the story of Ruth came to mind, specifically the phrase Kinsman Redeemer. I read the book of Ruth and asked God to teach me what he wanted me to learn.

    To quickly paraphrase the book, Ruth followed her mother in law, Naomi, back to her homeland after all the men of their family had passed away. They were left without children to carry the men’s name and land to pass down. They hoped for a Kinsmen Redeemer would take notice and redeem the family name and land. In the mean time, Ruth, who was a woman of nobel character, began to glean (pick up the left overs) the fields of a man named Boaz. Turns out, Boaz was a kinsmen redeemer. He saw Ruth’s hard work and had heard of her character. He showed favor to Ruth by allowing her to follow his servant girls so she would be under his protection. Ruth was able to bring back enough grain to Naomi from her hard work and his favor. Naomi, knowing that Boaz was a kinsmen redeemer, told Ruth to go to Boaz at the threshing floor (a place where wheat was separated from the plant) and wait until he fell asleep and then lie down at his feet and wait. Ruth did as she suggested. When Boaz awoke and saw her there he commended her for her noble character and that she did not chase after younger men poor or wealthy but chose him. He then bought Naomi’s and Ruth’s land and married Ruth redeeming both women and the family land and legacy.

    First, God showed me that we are Ruth. We may be married and have families but in time hurt might have been incurred or tragedy struck and they feel broken and dead. He showed me even though we may strive to know him and do what is right, sacrifice for our marriages and our family we do not have the ability to redeem them.

    We often times, find ourselves in the fields picking up the leftovers of these marriages and families to try to make it through. We work diligently to provide we sacrifice for them but it still only brings in barely enough. We end up never actually partaking in the true harvest of blessing God desires for us.

    It is when God calls us to lay at his feet on the threshing floor is when we will begin to experience the change. We must lay down all we have and allow him to do his work separating the good from the bad. In this stage, I find myself a little fearful. I, at times, am worried what would become of all that I have if he begins to pick it apart. What pain would I have to endure, while he does his work in me, my marriage and family so that we could benefit from the blessing. But that is the thing, all that I have is from His field. The threshing floor is a necessary place in order to experience the bounty of the harvest of blessing. On the threshing floor is where God does his work and redeems his people.

    We lay at his feet under his mercy and his grace as he does his work in our lives. We will find favor in Him, those who have chosen Him over the trappings of this world. He will recognize us and he will redeem our families and our marriages. Through his redemption, He doesn’t move backwards to make what was but he makes something new with him. He takes us, our marriages and families as His and allows us to share in His true harvest.

    Have you found yourself gleaning his fields? Working hard but barely having enough? Or has he called you to the threshing floor? To surrender it all so that He may separate what is good and what is bad. Allow Christ to be your Kinsman Redeemer for your family and marriage. Lay them at his feet on the threshing floor so he may do his work so you can share In His harvest.

    Lessons

    Marriage: Love, Sex and Kids

    In the early part of spring, God challenged me to pray and ask for something big in my life. For a while, I could not think of anything, but then my marriage came to mind. I asked the Lord to transform my mind on marriage. At the time, I was miserable to be honest. The stresses of life had taken hold and I felt farther away from my husband than I had ever felt. Frustration and roots of bitterness began to take hold as my ideas of happy marriage slipped away. I was mad all the time, I felt unloved and wanting and I hated it. I didn’t want to be like this so I knew asking God to transform my marriage was going to be a huge undertaking.

    Slowly, God began to transform my thinking. He taught me what it meant for him to be my husband.

    ““In that day,” declares the Lord, “you will call me ‘my husband’; you will no longer call me ‘my master. ’”

    ‭‭Hosea‬ ‭2:16‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    He taught me to find my desire to be loved fully in him. As a quality time person, our normal time together began to be transformed into a deeper more vulnerable way. He dug deep into my heart to mend old hurts. He peeled away wrong thinking and walls I had placed in order to “protect” myself. I had become raw and exposed. Nothing was hidden from Him, my husband or myself.

    He then began to teach me the meaning behind love making and truly being intimate with my husband. In the past, I had never understood the book Song of Songs. I could not see how what seemed like a bunch of lusting had anything to do with God. However, God revealed it is not lusting but desire and passion of love towards another. He first revealed that as Solomon describes the body parts of the individuals with such admiration and love that God and I do the same with attributes of character. I praise him in prayer of his faithfulness, kindness and loving ways. He reminds me I’m his beloved and knows me fully. As this revelation sunk in, He presented the idea that sex was as much meant for spiritual growth and out pouring of Love from the Lord as it was a physical act. I served God by serving my husband. This blew my mind. I have always felt like I had a third grade maturity level when it came to the three letter S word so to be so honest about the mysteries of sex and how I am to grow in my spiritual walk was and is a bit of a challenge.

    With these new revelations, actions were taken in obedience. I had not realized in all of my misery, I had placed my husband and my marriage on the back burner. Even more so, I had not realized I had the kids placed so highly. In order to obey God, I was confronted with habits I had with the kids that placed them above my husband. It revealed fears of leaving my kids with others so we could go on dates. I had convinced myself all these years that I was being a good mom by focusing on them and I felt guilt when I was away from them. What was really happening, was a deceitful snake in my marriage and in my family. Lies of guilt for taking time with my husband away from the kids flooded my mind and stunted my actions. LieS were told that hurts could not be forgiven. I was convinced that in order to grow in my marriage I was going to have to force Steve to grow with me and if not that we could never grow.

    The light was shed on all of it. My heart and my mind was transformed about my marriage and my husband. It was never more apparent I was on the right track as the events of last night. It was our anniversary. I had spent the day preparing Steve’s gifts and getting a special dinner. I told the kids it was a special day or us and the oldest decided to draw a heart note for his dad. The kids were fed an early dinner so that Steve and I could sit and eat at the table and have a conversation while the kids watched tv. We spent the evening close to one another focused on being together. Then as we got the kids to bed and tried to spend “alone” time. The oldest woke up and started some dramatic theatrics that were out of character. After finally getting him to talk, he revealed that he was upset that I had spent the day talking about dad and spending my time with dad. He was ultimately jealous. It was then I realized I truly had set them ahead of my husband. I explained that things were changing that I had placed his father below the kids and that it was not right. I told him in order for Steve and I to truly teach him and be a good parents we must also make sure we are spending time together. I assured him that we both loved him very much and that we would enjoy playing games and such in the morning.

    Making time for our marriage and loving each other well is tough business with young kids. Sleep schedules are crazy, stress levels are high and exhaustion is right around every corner. It is easy to say I’m too tired or when the kids get older everything will change. It is easy to set your spouse on the back burner and put the kids in the a spot light. It’s easy to turn your attention to what your spouse isn’t doing rather than what you can do for your spouse. It’s easy to forget to find your love in God when the tangible person in front of you is suppose to love you.

    However, make that time! In order to teach your children to be godly adults, you also have to teach them to be godly wives and husbands. If you want your kids to learn to serve others, first learn to serve your spouse even when you don’t feel like it. Find your love and fulfillment in God alone and allow his love to be an out pouring into your marriage. Serve your spouse in ways that they receive love. Show them God’s love for them and for you. Your children are watching. They will learn to love others by your example of how you love your spouse and how serious you take the commitment of marriage. Don’t wait for the other to start the actions of service and love in order to grow but ask God to transform your thinking and begin to love as He loves you.

    ““A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.””

    ‭‭John‬ ‭13:34-35‬ ‭NIV‬‬

    Daily Reminders, Lessons

    Speaking a Foreign Language

    I love personality tests. I love to see how each person ticks and how God created them to work, learn and love. Each person having their own language in the way they perceive life.

    Over the last couple of months, God has shown me by learning the language of others, I can better communicate Christ’s love to them. I’m an introverted person who loves the details of life and how they all connect together forming a larger picture. I find the most loving thing a person could do is spend quality time with me talking over big ideas and going deeply into the meaning of them. However, the people in my family do not have this same perception of life. I live with several inventors and big picture people who get bored easily with the little details. I have loved ones who don’t need long talks but constant snuggles and little special things done for them. Some speak to me using their words others bottle their feelings and use actions more loudly. A few need to be praised and others shy away from praise. Each made in the image of God with their own unique way of viewing life and love.

    Although, I have always made an effort to understand each one in my family, God revealed to me my lack of understanding on truly speaking the language above all languages, the language of the spirit. He opened my eyes using

    ‭‭Acts of the Apostles‬ ‭2:3-4

    “Then, what looked like flames or tongues of fire appeared and settled on each of them. And everyone present was filled with the Holy Spirit and began speaking in other languages, as the Holy Spirit gave them this ability.”

    The Holy Spirit, at the time of Pentecost, enabled the apostles to speak foreign languages to men and women present so each could hear in his or her own native tongue. How amazing is that!?!

    God showed me that through his Holy Spirit I can learn to speak into the hearts of my loved ones by speaking their language. He revealed that even in those whom I have a similar love language our ideas of quality time are drastically different. For those who are not like me, it is not enough to do what I think they would like. To truly speak to them, I must listen to the spirits prompting and speak their language. It would require me to move out of my own comfort zone, change habits because it would hinder me from expressing God’s love to them and go to greater lengths in planning and being intentional. It would require me to become selfless and speak the exact language they needed to hear.

    However, in all of this beautiful revelation God has reminded me of the greatest thing, that to love supernaturally I must have my own love tank filled supernaturally. In other words, in order to love my family well through the spirit I must remember that my own love tank must be filled by God himself not dependent of others. Knowing the God of the Universe loves me and does in deed speak into my heart personally, I can love others through his spirit without feeling depleted or unloved.

    Through the Spirit, we can learn to love our spouses and our children. We can demonstrate God’s love by speaking their language and going beyond ourselves to love as God loves us. Imagine the beautiful blessings that would come to our marriages and our families if we chose to speak the languages of our loved ones as the spirit prompted.

    Matthew‬ ‭22:36-40‬

    ““Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.””

    Book Recommendations

    The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

    The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman

    The Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

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    Daily Reminders

    You’re So Pretty Mom

    1 Peter 3:1-6

    Each one of my older Children at random times of the day will walk up to me and say, “You’re so pretty mom.” It is usually followed by a hug or a kiss. I will tell them thank you and compliment them on an aspect of their character.

    As a mom of four, in all honesty, I don’t feel all that pretty. My body has changed so much over the last 7 years. It has had ups and downs in weight and shapes that I’m not even sure how to dress it anymore. My normal mom uniform consists of yoga pants and t-shirts for their practicality and comfort. Make-up and straightening my hair seems to be left for special occasions of church and the doctors office. Jewelry is toned down. Where I once wore my beautiful engagement ring and band, it is now replaced with multiple colored silicone rings and my ears only bear occasional simple pearls. My outward beauty has seem to have faded into an assortment of convenience and comfort.

    So what is it that kids see that is so pretty? I actually asked them one day. I first asked what makes a person pretty and my four year old responded, “Your heart.” I then asked him why do you think I’m pretty? He said, “Because you are nice to us.”

    Of course, my heart melted! It also reminded me of Proverbs 31:30

    “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

    At this stage in my life, looking into a mirror does not thrill me. At times, I do lament the body I use to have but it is often followed by gratitude for what my body has gone through. I sometimes get frustrated with my daily uniform but remember it allows me to focus on my children gives me comfort to run around and play in the floor. I’m not worried about spit up or other bodily fluid destroying nice clothes or binding me up where I cannot play tickle monster. My face might be bare but I don’t have to worry about mascara running down my face because I have had a hard day with the kids and I’ve been crying out to Jesus.

    This is a time of inner beauty rather than outward beauty. It is a time that God is cultivating fruit of the spirit in me as I seek desperately for Him so that I can teach my children. A time to see beauty in the way the Father sees beauty and a challenge to have confidence in him rather than the way I look.

    Before long, the season of little kids and yucky hands will be gone. I will no longer need to wear the mom uniform for practical purposes. The kids will not require my full attention as they do now. However, I suspect that as I move away from this season, I will also be moving away from the phrase, “You’re so pretty mom.” I see the evidence in my oldest. So I will relish this time and continue to peruse beauty in Christ that will last into eternity.